Boundaries: Is it a Good Thing or a Bad Thing?
When Can Boundaries Become Bad?
A new month and a new theme. This time, we are talking about “Boundaries”. A concept that a lot of us is struggling to implement.
Although the lock down has forced all to set some physical boundaries (Which really can helpful to get of things sometimes), I am here today to talk about the emotional and mental one….
How Can Boundaries be Bad For Us?
We always hear that setting boundaries is really important for us. Staying away from toxic people and learning how to say “No” to something we are not comfortable with…etc.
And I agree that this is all so important.
However, setting boundaries sometimes can have a negative effect instead. When we start saying “No” to everything we are not a 100% comfortable because we are scared we might mess it up. Remember “magic happens outside your comfort zone.” and sometimes we would be saying “No” just to set boundaries that would trap us in.
So What Do You Do?
Be true to yourself.
Are you not agreeing to something because you are standing up for yourself or because you are running away from something that you feel is too much for you?
Is the situation uncomfortable because of how it affects you negatively or is it uncomfortable because it is new to you?
Learn to differentiate. It can be hard sometimes and you feel like you are standing up for yourself and doing what’s more “your style” when in fact you are just saying “No” to the numerous opportunities coming your way.
Make sure that the boundaries you are setting are ones that keep the toxicity out and not ones that keeps you trapped in a box.
As always I am here to help and I will be waiting for your comment and feedback.
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